So we were at the "marriage enrichment" course I talked Doug into going to last night and the teacher says..."The difference between expectation and reality is misery." What a thought! We need to figure out how far away what are expectations are from what reality really is...Because the higher our expectations...The more our misery when reality doesn't live up to them.
sit and think about that for awhile...
For example...When speaking to neighbor about his daughter getting her feelings hurt by my daughter...I expect him to speak to me with respect and courtesy...In reality he barks at me about my poor parenting skills and what he sees as my daughter's self-centered behavior(she's only 6) and then leaves me to feel the misery of the exchange that just took place.
This is such a mind blowing concept for me...Change the situation and the players for your own experiences and you will see what I mean.
For example...When speaking to my neighbor about his daughter getting her feelings hurt by my daughter...I should expect that he can not hold an adult conversation because of his overwhelming lack of social skills...In reality he barks at me about his spoiled daughter getting her feelings hurt by my 6 year old...Still a little misery at being talked to like that but the reality is so much closer to my expectation that I should simply be able to walk away thinking "Jerk!"